Last week, I wrote about one of my favorite reminders: It’s always OK to ask for what you need. That is true. It is also true that sometimes asking is hard. I can’t tell you how many people have said something to me along the lines of: “I wish my kids would call me more.” “I wish my friends would...

I can’t tell you how many members of churches I have lost to death. Not because they died but because someone they loved did. After a spouse, child, parent, or close friend died, church became too painful. Sometimes it was the empty pew beside them. Sometimes it was the hymn they could no longer ...

Every funeral I do, I talk about grief. Not because I have an answer that makes grief go away. I don’t.  I have no magic wand to take away grief. I talk about grief because people need language for what they are experiencing. I share about how grief does not follow five neat stages. It does not m...